Anonymous asked: I have a question... I've read a lot about bdsm. And i find it very interesting and hopefully would like to try it, however the thought of spanking reminds me of my parents spanking me as a child... And i dont like the thought of pain. How do you differentiate sexual spanking from punishment spanking? I think for myself i wouldnt be able to handle it but reading your stories has me second guessing the thought
What an excellent question.
What’s the difference between a sexual spanking and a punishment spanking?
In a word, the difference is play.
Once we could spend days just exploring, playing games and having fun. But then life got all serious! Luckily, at about the same age, we discover an exciting new side of ourselves: our sexuality. For those with a healthy notion of sex, it’s a wonderful adventure playground, somewhere we can let our imaginations run free, be someone different, break taboos and do something naughty.
A sexual spanking is motivated by this playfulness, the desire to have fun.
Whereas a punishment spanking is motivated by deterrence, the infliction of pain is meant as a reminder: don’t do that again.
This context is all-important, like all games in an adventure playground, sometimes you might fall off and get the odd bruise, but the enjoyment of play makes the odd bump worthwhile.
And the pleasure derived from spanking is subtle. Some people feel a buzz from discomfort, like those who enjoy extremely hot food; others enjoy donning a new persona through role-playing. There’s a reason this blog is called Spanking Theatre, it’s not just the theatre between your ears, it’s also the theatre you can create in your own bedroom. Together you and your partner can improvise an endless number of intimate dramas; share erotic games and wonderful secret adventures. Imagine playing out a scene over successive evenings, as you deepen the characters, and explore each others’ imaginations.
But why spanking?